How to Make Friends in College (Reader Replies)

It’s been almost a year since my last blog post — yikes! While the blog has fallen silent, I’ve been working hard in a lot of other areas. I’ve finished my second year of graduate school (whew!). And I published my new book Level Up Your Social Life which is a great accomplishment. I’ve also been spending a lot of time answering … Read More

How To Motivate Yourself To Be More Social

There’s a simple trick from psychology for motivating yourself to be more social. It’s usually used in the world of sales. Instead of asking “Do you want to buy a car?” a salesmen will ask “Would you rather buy the red car of the blue car?” No matter which you choose, you still end up buying a car. It’s also … Read More

New Video On “How To Avoid Talking Too Much”

Hi everyone! I’ve decided to start up a YouTube channel, where I’ll share social skills videos. I’m still a beginner at the world of YouTube, but I’m hopeful I can provide some helpful videos. My first video is up now — it’s a 60 second explanation of how you can avoid talking too much. Enjoy, and let me know what … Read More

Bids for Connection

Dr. John Gottman has been studying couples for four decades. He has dedicated his life to figuring out what separates healthy relationships from unhealthy ones, and he’s written more than 40 books on the subject. This guy knows relationships. Most of his research is primarily focused on romantic relationships, but one of his findings can help you in friendships, too. It relates to something … Read More

How to Be More Outgoing (Guest post by David Morin)

Hi all! A few weeks ago, David was gracious enough to publish an interview with me. Now, I’m returning the favor. He’s got some good tips, so enjoy! David Morin, author of SocialPro.com 8 years ago, David Morin realized that he had to make a change in his social life. He often spent evenings and weekends alone and wanted to … Read More

Give It 100

Social skills are like any other skill — if you practice, you get better. But in order to practice, you have to start, and you have to keep going. And both of those things are very hard. It’s really easy to wait to start until you’re totally “ready” (which will be never), or burn yourself out by pursuing a new … Read More

How To Teach Kids Social Skills – Guest Post

Hey guys! This week I have a guest post from Rusty May. Rusty is a veteran school counselor who runs SchoolToolsTV, a site with videos that teachers can use to teach social skills and positive values to their students. He’s an expert on helping kids succeed, and I’m excited to share his thoughts on teaching kids social skills. Although his … Read More

The Case For Small Talk

Lots of people tell me, “I hate small talk.” And in truth, small talk can be tiresome sometimes. When you’re discussing a topic you don’t care about, it’s natural to get bored. Small talk can be doubly frustrating when you’ve craving deep interactions. After you’ve experienced true heart-to-heart conversation, how can you go back to discussing the weather? It’s understandable … Read More

How To Speak With Confidence & Authority

The way you speak matters. If you don’t sound like you expect respect, you might not get it. Fortunately, you don’t need to be a natural leader to speak with authority, or the king of self-esteem to speak with confidence. With a little practice, anyone can begin to speak with authority and confidence. Don’t believe me? Just keep reading

Telling Stories in Conversation

Stories put your ability to connect into overdrive. People are wired for storytelling, and the easiest way to someone’s heart is not through their stomach but through storytelling. Unfortunately, it’s easy to tell a story badly.  You’ve probably been subject to rambling storytellers that take forever to get to the point — or worse, don’t seem to have a point at … Read More