Conversation should be fun.Conversation is supposed to be an opportunity to meet someone new, bond over shared interests – feel the spark of connection.
It’s supposed to feel natural and flowing, where the right thing to say comes effortlessly.
It’s supposed to be anxiety free, where you can focus on connecting with the other person instead of worrying about how you're coming across.
Unfortunately, for many people, conversation isn’t much fun.
Maybe that includes you.
Maybe you feel anxious and stressed during conversations that others seem to enjoy.
Maybe your conversations tend to sputter out prematurely, and you're not sure how to keep them going.
Or maybe you want more meaningful connections with others, but you're not sure how to take your conversations beyond small talk and into that deeper level.
Whatever your struggle is, I can help. I’ve written a practical, easy-to-apply guide to conversation that will help you master the principles that make conversation work. There’s no vague advice or snake oil here – just concrete advice that has worked for me and hundreds of thousands of readers.
Oh yeah, forgot to mention – it’s totally free.
So what are you waiting for? Dive in!
Lesson One: The Secret of Conversation FlowWhat makes some conversations flow smoothly, and others sputter or feel awkward?
In this section, I explain the principles of "Invitation" and "Inspiration" and how these two principles work together to create smooth, comfortable conversation.
Lesson Two: Invitation, The Art of Good Questions
Invitations help to add structure to a conversation by clearly communicating to your partner when it's their turn to speak and giving them a topic to speak about.
In this section, I discuss invitations in depth and teach you how to use them in your conversations. In addition, since most invitations are questions, I explain how to ask good questions and show how you can build rapport with others using questions.
Lesson Three: Inspiration, The Heartbeat of Good ConversationIt's possible to build a conversation out of nothing but invitations, but there's a better way.
Through something I call an "inspiration", you help build conversation that feels more natural and that encourages more sharing and intimacy between you and your partner. This section explains what inspirations are and how they work
Lesson Four: Inspiration in PracticeOnce you understand what inspirations are and what they can do for you, you'll be eager to apply them in your everyday conversation.
This section gives you the practical, step-by-step guidance you need to do just that
Lesson Five: Invitation And Inspiration In HarmonyAfter you've learned about invitation and inspiration separately, it's time to discover how they can work together.
This section explains how you can use invitation and inspiration in harmony with each other and equips you to use them in real-world conversations.