How To Speak With Confidence & Authority

The way you speak matters.

If you don't sound like you expect respect, you might not get it.

Fortunately, you don't need to be a natural leader to speak with authority, or the king of self-esteem to speak with confidence. With a little practice, anyone can begin to speak with authority and confidence.

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One Simple Rule to Overcome Anxiety

Fear often keeps us from the things we want.

Maybe we want to go talk to that guy, or ask that girl out, or go to that party. But we're afraid.

What if  he doesn't want to talk to me?

What if she says no?

What if I feel awkward at the party?

In the moment, these fears can seem really big. And when our fears are big, we play it safe, which means we avoid the things we really want to do.

Fortunately, there's one simple rule you can use to give yourself courage.Read More

Review of Being Frank – Great Book for Kids with Asperger’s.

Although most of the visitors to Improve Your Social Skills are adults, I do get a lot of questions from parents who are interested in social skills training for their kids. Sometimes it's because the kids have Asperger's or a similar condition, and sometimes it's just because kids are kids and need a little help learning the social skills.

While Improve Your Social Skills (and most other resources) can be adapted to work with kids, it's great to find resources that are specifically designed for kids. That's why I'm excited to tell you about Being Frank, a book about a kid named Frank who is, well, too frank.Read More

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Hey guys! I know things have been a little quiet at Improve Your Social Skills recently, but never fear -- cool things are in the works, and you'll be able to see the fruits of my labor soon.

In the meantime, I wanted to let you know about a cool new resource for learning body language. It's called, and I recommend it highly. It's comprehensive, has videos, and best of all it's totally free (at least at time of writing.)

There's tons of body language books out there, but it's tough to translate a picture on a page to a real-life person, so the videos really make GoBodyLanguage stand out. It's free, so click on over today!Read More

Telling Stories in Conversation

Stories put your ability to connect into overdrive. People are wired for storytelling, and the easiest way to someone's heart is not through their stomach but through storytelling.

Unfortunately, it's easy to tell a story badly.  You've probably been subject to rambling storytellers that take forever to get to the point -- or worse, don't seem to have a point at all. On occasion, you've probably also been one of those storytellers on occasion (sorry!)

Fortunately, it's also easy to tell a story well -- if you know how. There's just three things you need to remember.Read More

Online Social Skills Training Group

EDIT: This group is not currently active. However, I do offer social skills coaching. If you thought this group would be helpful, social skills coaching is also likely to be helpful for you.

Mr. Rogers once said "You don't choose a job and expect not to work hard. But you can expect that you don't have to do it alone. Nobody should have to do it alone"

Social skills improvement can be a tough job, and you do need to work hard. But you don't have to do it alone.

Two of my friends who are professional counselors are starting an online social skills workshop, geared at folks who want to improve their social skills in a group environment. It's an incredible opportunity for you to turbocharge your social skills improvement, so keep reading to get the details!Read More

3 Hobbies That Teach Social Skills

Social skills improve with practice. The more time you spend interacting with others, the better you become at social interaction (makes sense, right?)

Unfortunately, finding the opportunity to practice can be difficult. If you want to be a better runner, you can lace on your shoes and run around the block, but if you want to get better at social skills, where do you go to practice?

That's what this article is all about. Sit tight, and I'll tell you three of my favorite hobbies that helped me improve my social skills -- and that can help you, too!Read More

MLK Day 2013

As always on MLK day, I want to take the opportunity to share with you my favorite speech by Martin Luther King, Jr.

I gave this speech at a competition my senior year of college, and I count that moment as one of my proudest accomplishments. This speech means a lot to me, and I hope it will inspire you too.

It's an inspiration to me, and I hope it will inspire you too.

Give it a read!

2012 Reflections

What a year.

One year ago, I launched Improve Your Social Skills.

In that year, incredible things have happened.

  • Over 100,000 people have visited Improve Your Social Skills

And 2013 is going to be even better. Here's a glimpse at what 2013 has in storeRead More