Anyone can learn social skills

Improve Your Social Skills is here to help.

Improve Your Social Skills is a comprehensive online guide to social skills. It explains topics like conversation and body language in practical, easy-to-apply lessons.

I wrote it because believe that everyone deserves a place to belong. Everyone deserves a community of good friends. But many people struggle to connect with others because of poor social skills.

Maybe you're one of those people. Maybe it feels like you've been struggling a long time.

You don't have to struggle any more.

Social skills are like any other skill. If you study and practice, you'll get better. You don't need to be born with natural charisma, and it's never too late to learn.

How can I be so sure? Well, I know a thing or two about overcoming social awkwardness.

My Story

My name is Daniel Wendler and I'm the author of Improve Your Social Skills. I wrote it to share everything I learned from overcoming my own social struggles.

Growing up, I was the most socially awkward kid you could ever hope to meet. I was bullied, rejected, and lonely. I thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me, and feared nobody would ever accept me.

Eventually, I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome. I learned that my social struggles weren't the result of some terrible flaw in my person. Instead, they were the result of Asperger's keeping me from learning social skills naturally.

So I decided to learn social skills deliberately, like a foreign language. I devoured stacks of books. I practiced extensively. And I got better -- a lot better.

The bottom line?

When I say this stuff works, I'm not joking.

Improve Your Social Skills explains the exact social skills principles that I used to achieve my own social success. There's no fluff, no untested theories -- just concrete, practical advice that has worked for me and hundreds of thousands of readers.


But you don't have to take my word for it. You can check out my TEDx talk (which has been viewed by over 150,000 people) where I explain in detail how my life has been transformed. You can also check out some of the endorsements that I've received:

Not only is Dan fun and laid-back, he is also really logical and linear in his teachings. He’s great at taking social skills and breaking them down into understandable
Daniel Wendler is an authority in the field of how to achieve social
This guide encourages me to be my best self and make fruitful and lasting friendships with others to help them be their best selves, too... This guide is unlike any other, and I can't recommend it user review

Of course, you can just read my guide yourself and find out what I'm talking about 🙂

The Guide

Improve Your Social Skills covers a ton of material. It has 50+ lessons, covering everything from conversation to empathy to making friends.

The guide is split into two sections -- basic and advanced. The basic guide covers the fundamentals of social interaction, like conversation and body language. It's 100% free, so you can jump right in.

The advanced guide covers topics like group conversation, making friends, and dating. You need to pay $5 to access the advanced guide, although if you can't afford it you can get in free if you agree to do a good deed. You can also grab the full guide (basic and advanced combined) on Kindle or Audible.

I encourage you to start the beginning and work through in order but, of course, you're welcome to jump around if you like. Ready? Let's go.

Basic Guide

This is what I believe. This is why Improve Your Social Skills exists. My Manifesto explains the heart behind the site. I hope it will encourage you on your own social skills journey.
Think of Foundations as the introduction to the guide. It explains how to get the most out of the guide and gives advice about achieving your social goals.  I wrote Foundations to help you think through your goals and motivations, and I include guidance for overcoming fear and the temptation of manipulation.
In Body Language, I teach how to decipher the two key body language signals : "Comfort" and "Discomfort." I explain how to respond when someone is comfortable or uncomfortable, and also show you how to use your own body language to send positive messages.
Conversation is your guide to smooth, comfortable conversation. I explain how the principle of "Inspiration and Invitation" enables you to have smooth, enjoyable conversation with anyone, on any topic.
It's important to be there for your friends when they are struggling. In Support Your Friends, I share helpful tips that will prepare you to support others.
Want to get in a quick social skills study session? Check out my quick how-to guides --- simple, easy tips that are easy to understand and apply right away.

Advanced Guide

(Requires $5 Membership)

Group Conversation gives you the tools you need to comfortably participate in group conversations. I explain how to decide which group conversation to join and how to break into the conversation once you've decided to join. I also explain how to extend the principle of "Invitation and Inspiration" to group conversations, and teach you to help others to feel comfortable in group conversations too.
If you want to build great relationships with others, you need to understand them. In Empathy, I teach you how to train yourself to see the world from the perspective of someone else, and I show how this can help in your relationships. I also explain how you can learn to understand your own emotions better, because understanding your own emotions makes it easier to understand the feelings of others.
Stories help us connect with one another, and Storytelling in Conversation gives you the skills to share great stories. I explain the three ingredients of a good story, and give you lots of tips and techniques to make sure that your stories hold your listeners' interest and create connection.
All the social skills in the world won't help you make friends if you never leave the house. In Meeting People, I give you the principles you need to meet potential friends. I explain how to find quality social groups that increase your chances of making new friends I also show you how to make serendipitous connections, and how to move those serendipitous connections into friendship.
It's great to go to a social group and meet friendly people, but how do you grow friendly people into genuine friends?  Making Friends has the answer. In this section, I explain how you can identify the people who are most likely to become great friends, and I show you step-by-step how to begin and grow a new friendship.
Romance adds an entirely new set of challenges to social interaction, but with this guide you’ll be well-equipped to handle them. In the dating section, I explain everything you need to know to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship. You’ll learn how to take your relationship all the way from first encounter to first kiss to life-long love story.